Gifts aren’t trophies for your shelf. They’re tools meant for somebody else’s house.

Being good at something gets treated as a possession, a line on a list of what you are. A tool is defined by what it does, and it only means anything while it is in use. Talent held privately turns into anxiety about whether you are as good as you thought. Used, it stops being about you fairly quickly.

Take whatever you are best at and find somebody who needs it this month. Tutor the younger kid, fix the thing, play at the event, edit the essay. Do it for free once and notice how much lighter the ability feels.