God isn’t nervous about your questions. Your faith might be, but He isn’t.

Nervousness about a question usually lives in the asker, not in the answer. When you have been told something is fragile, poking it feels dangerous, and so you carry the question around unexamined to keep the whole structure from wobbling. What is actually fragile is your current understanding, which is supposed to change. Whether or not you share that belief, nothing solid gets damaged by being looked at.

Find the person least likely to get defensive and put your question to them. Keep it as the real question rather than the polite version you have been practicing.