You can be thankful for your family and still wish some things were different. Both can be true.

Being thankful for people does not require you to pretend everything about the arrangement is fine. You can mean it about the ones who fed you and drove you and stayed, and still wish somebody drank less, argued less, or was still living in the house. Gratitude that depends on everything being good is not gratitude. It is a performance, and it tends to collapse.

If your family is a complicated one, you might let both things stand this week without resolving them. Say the honest version to one person you trust.