Loss changes ordinary objects by attaching someone who is no longer there.

Objects are neutral until someone leaves. A coffee cup, a jacket, a handwriting on a grocery list, all of it becomes charged, because the person is now stored in the ordinary things rather than in the person. That is why a drawer can undo an afternoon. The object has not changed; what it holds has.

Go slowly with belongings, and let there be no schedule for sorting them. Keep the few things that carry the most and let the rest wait until you can face them. There is no deadline anyone can set for you here.