Some of what you have, you earned. Some you were handed. Knowing which is which is the start of gratitude.

Sorting what you earned from what you were handed is uncomfortable and clarifying. Effort is real, and so is a starting position you did nothing to arrange, and most outcomes are a mixture of the two in proportions nobody can measure exactly. Claiming all of it as yours leaves you oddly alone with it. Claiming none of it is just as false and no more honest.

Take one thing that is going well for you and list what you put in and what you were given. Do it honestly, on paper, this week. The given part usually has people attached, and those are the people to thank.