Missing someone years later does not mean healing failed.

A sharp missing that arrives ten years later is not evidence that something went wrong. Healing was never supposed to produce indifference; it produced the ability to live well, which you have. The love did not have an expiration built into it, so its absence does not either. Depth of feeling and successful recovery are not in competition.

If a late wave arrives, resist the impulse to be embarrassed by it. Let it run and then go back to your day, which is exactly what a recovered life looks like. The presence of feeling is not the absence of progress.