Being fair to people you don’t like is the only kind of fair that’s really tested.

Fairness toward your friends is nearly free, because your instincts already point that way. The test arrives when the person in front of you is somebody you find irritating, the rules suddenly feel optional, and nobody would blame you for reading the situation in your own favour. What you do right there is the whole measure of it.

Find one person you do not like and give them the call you would have given a friend. The full turn, the credit they earned, the benefit of the doubt. You are not doing it for them so much as deciding what kind of judge you intend to be.