Being needed and being valued aren’t the same thing. Notice which one you’re getting.

Being needed feels like closeness and is not the same thing. You can be the person who gets asked for lifts, homework and favours while nobody asks how you are, and that is a job rather than a friendship. Being valued looks different: people make time for you when nothing is required, and they notice when you are off.

Look at one relationship and ask when they last contacted you with no request attached. If the answer is never, you are allowed to step back a little and see whether anybody follows.