You can tell what someone values by what they’re willing to be bad at in public.

Nobody looks clumsy on purpose unless something matters more to them than looking good. The kid stumbling through a language, the beginner at the back of a class, the person singing badly at a recital: each of them has decided the thing is worth the embarrassment. It is one of the clearest signals a person gives off, and it is almost impossible to fake.

Look at your own list. What are you currently willing to be visibly bad at, and what will you only attempt in private? The gap between those two tells you what you are protecting.