Some confidence is silent. It looks like taking the last seat in the room without saying sorry for it.

A lot of what passes for confidence is volume. The quieter version shows up in small physical facts: taking the seat, taking the space, answering a question without three qualifiers in front of it, not apologising for existing in a room you were invited into. Nobody notices it happening, which is what makes it convincing.

Cut one apology this week that was not for anything. Walking past someone, asking a reasonable question, taking the last chair. Just do the thing without the sorry attached, and notice that the room does not object.