Your opinion of yourself shouldn’t need a like count to load.

REFLECTION

WHAT THIS MEANS

Handing your self-assessment to a number makes it something other people can switch off. A post that did badly on a Tuesday night was not a referendum on you; it met a bad hour, a changed feed, a crowded evening. Any measure that moves around that much is too unstable to build a sense of yourself on.

Try posting something and then leaving the app for a day, so the number is finished before you see it. Better, make something this week that nobody will score: a drawing, a meal, a session in the gym with no record of it. Notice you can still tell whether it was good.

A QUESTION TO SIT WITH

How long after posting do you check the numbers?

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