Being private online doesn’t mean you have something to hide. It means you have something to keep.

Privacy gets treated as suspicious, as though anything good would be posted. In practice the things that matter most lose something in the publishing: a friendship turns into content, a trip turns into a performance, and you start experiencing your own life through how it will look. Keeping something back is a way of keeping it yours.

Choose one thing this month that you deliberately do not post. A good evening, a result you are proud of, somebody you love. Notice whether it feels like it happened less or more, and let that answer guide how much of the rest you hand over.