Worrying about missing out is how you miss what’s right in front of you.

Attention is a single beam and it cannot illuminate two rooms. Worrying about the party you are missing is a full time job, and it runs on the hours you are currently spending somewhere else, so the fear of missing out reliably causes the thing it fears. You end up slightly absent everywhere, including the places you chose.

Tonight, wherever you are, put the phone away for the first hour and stay in the room you actually picked. Practice, dinner, a shift, a friend’s kitchen. Being fully in one place is rarer than being invited to two.