Holding an umbrella over someone means you get a little wet. That’s what caring costs.

Looking after somebody is not free, and the cost is the proof. If nothing was given up then not much was given, which is why real help usually involves some inconvenience you could have avoided. That is not martyrdom, just the ordinary arithmetic of being someone’s friend.

Accept a small cost for somebody this week on purpose. Take the earlier bus so they are not waiting alone. Give up the good seat, cover the shift, listen when you are tired. Keep it small enough that you could do it again next week.