You’re allowed to like who you are when nobody’s posting about it.

If your sense of yourself updates only when somebody mentions you, then how you feel runs on other people’s schedules. That is a thin arrangement, because the quiet weeks start to feel like proof that nothing is happening. Most of what makes you decent is invisible by nature: being on time, being easy to live with, doing the rep nobody counted.

Name one thing you did this month that nobody saw and nobody will. Let it count properly, the way you would let a posted version count. Over a year, most of the real evidence about you sits in that pile.