Your friend’s crisis can be real and still not be yours to solve tonight.

Two things can be true at once. Something can matter enormously and still be past what you can do about it at eleven at night with an exam in the morning. Caring does not make you the emergency service. Staying up to absorb all of it usually leaves two exhausted people instead of one.

You can tell a friend you are with them and also that you have to sleep. Offer a time tomorrow and keep it. If the trouble is bigger than you, help them reach somebody whose job it is.