Making the choice might take a day. Helping your family understand it might take years.

Deciding and being understood run on completely different clocks. You can know what you want by the afternoon, while the people who love you are still catching up months later, because they are working from an older picture of who you are. That lag is not quite resistance. It is the time somebody needs to revise what they thought they knew.

Make the decision on your own schedule and let the explaining be slow. Answer the same question patiently when it comes back around. Offer small updates instead of one big argument.