If you call it “drama,” you’ll miss the part where someone’s actually hurting.

The word sorts a situation into entertainment and lets you stop asking what is underneath it. It is convenient precisely because it absolves you of doing anything. Sometimes it is accurate. Often it gets applied to somebody handling a hard thing badly and loudly, which is what most people do once they have run out of better options.

When you are about to use it this week, pause and ask who in the situation is actually in pain. You do not have to take sides or get pulled into the mess. You can send one private message to the person at the centre of it and leave it there.