Giving quietly protects kindness from becoming performance.

Once kindness has an audience, motives get mixed in ways even you cannot untangle. Doing it quietly is not moral superiority; it is a practical way of keeping the act about the other person, and of finding out what you would do with no credit available.

Try doing one good thing this month that nobody will ever know about. Notice any reluctance that appears. That reluctance is worth knowing about, and the practice keeps a part of your kindness clean of performance.