The more you know yourself, the more you realize how much you were wrong about you. That’s a good sign.

Learning about yourself mostly consists of discovering that your earlier descriptions were wrong. Each honest look replaces something you were sure about, which can feel like going backwards when it is the opposite, since only somebody actually paying attention keeps turning up errors. Being certain you have yourself worked out is usually the sign that the looking stopped.

Write down one thing you believed about yourself a year ago that turned out to be inaccurate. Notice that finding it took some work. Treat the next correction as progress rather than proof you are a mess.