Make big decisions after a quiet hour alone, not after an hour of everyone’s opinions.
STILLNESS
WHAT THIS MEANS
A decision made straight after an hour of everybody’s views is mostly an average of the loudest ones. Opinions stick, and the most recent few sit on top, which is how the same question can get two different answers depending on who you happened to talk to last. Quiet does not hand you new information. It lets what you already know settle into some kind of order.
With any real decision this week, put an hour alone in front of it. Write what you think before you ask anybody. Then collect the advice and see which parts genuinely change your mind.
A QUESTION TO SIT WITH
Did you get a quiet hour before your last big decision?
MORE IN SOLITUDE & SELF-KNOWLEDGE
- A long solo run, ride or swim is where your mind finally stops performing and starts sorting.
- You at 3 p.m. and you at 11 p.m. make very different decisions. Learn which one to trust with what.
- What you look up at 2 a.m. when nobody’s assigning anything is a pretty honest read on what you’re curious about.
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