Skipping the hot take is underrated. “Still figuring that out” is an honest answer most adults are scared to give.

Having an instant opinion on everything is a performance rather than a sign of intelligence. Groups reward speed, so people learn to reach a verdict before they have reached a thought, then defend it because it is theirs. Admitting you have not decided holds open a door that a quick take closes. It takes more nerve than certainty does, which is why so many adults avoid it.

Pick one subject this week where you let yourself not know yet. When it comes up, say so plainly and ask what the other person thinks. Notice whether anybody actually thinks less of you.