Your manager knows your availability. Your friends know your jokes. Nobody but you gets the full schedule of who you are.

Everybody who knows you holds a partial file, assembled from the few hours they actually see. Your boss has the reliable one, your friends have the funny one, your family has a version that stopped updating years ago. None is wrong and none is complete, and you are the only one holding all the pages.

That means no single person’s opinion of you is a full verdict, including the harsh ones. When somebody says what you are like, treat it as one page rather than the book. When you are hard on yourself, remember you hold the whole thing, so be accurate with it.