People bring their problems to whoever doesn’t make them worse. Low drama is a kind of power.

Being easy to talk to is not a personality trait. It is a reputation earned one conversation at a time, when somebody tells you something hard and it stays with you instead of becoming material for the group chat. That person comes back. Over a couple of years, that is how you end up knowing what is really going on and being asked first.

Notice what you do with the next piece of news that is not yours. Keeping it costs a few seconds of attention and buys something slower and better. Let one genuinely interesting thing die with you this week.