In chess, attack where they’re weakest, not where they’re strongest. Pride makes people do the opposite.

Attacking the strong point is tempting because beating somebody at their best feels like proving something. It is also the most expensive possible way to win, and the thing being proved was never in question. Going at the weak side is less satisfying and considerably more effective, which is why pride keeps steering people the other way.

Before the next match or argument, name where the other side is actually thin and aim there. Notice if you find yourself drawn to the difficult route. That pull is usually about how it will look, not about winning.