You can accept support without surrendering direction.

You can let people carry some weight and still be the one deciding where you are going. Support and direction are separate things, and conflating them is why some people refuse help entirely and others hand over their whole course to whoever showed up. Neither is necessary.

Be explicit, at least to yourself, about what you are asking for. Help with this specific task, not a verdict on the plan. If advice arrives that you did not want, you can take the part that is useful and leave the rest without any drama and without owing an explanation.