A question with only two answers can misdescribe a person with three concerns.

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WHAT THIS MEANS

Forcing a complicated position into yes or no does not simplify the person, it misrecords them. Someone with three separate concerns has to pick the option that captures one of them, and the result reads as a clean opinion that they do not actually hold.

When you are asked to choose between two answers on something that matters, add a sentence if there is any room to. And when you are the one asking, leave space for the answer you did not anticipate, since the responses that do not fit are usually where you learn something.

A QUESTION TO SIT WITH

Which either-or question about your life always gets you wrong?

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