You may resent a question because answering it would interrupt the explanation you prefer.

A question can be irritating precisely because it is good. You have an account of the situation that works, and the question opens something the account has been managing, so the annoyance is protective rather than about rudeness. The stronger the reaction, the more likely the question found something.

When you feel that flare, hold the question for a day rather than answering it or dismissing it. Ask what your explanation is doing for you. Often the explanation is fine and occasionally it has been quietly load-bearing for years.