You can care deeply without carrying what belongs to someone else.

Love does not require carrying what belongs to someone else, though it feels that way when you can see them struggling. Taking on their responsibility often makes things worse, since it removes the pressure that would have moved them and exhausts you in the process.

Ask what is yours to do and what is theirs. Then do yours thoroughly and stay present for the rest without picking it up. Caring while not carrying is harder than either extreme, and it is usually what actually helps.