Let yourself need a reminder without treating it as proof you did not learn.

Needing a note or an alarm gets treated as evidence of some failing, as though a capable person would simply carry it all. Memory is not a measure of character, and the load most people hold now is larger than any head was built for. A reminder is a tool in exactly the way a shopping list is. Using one frees your attention for the parts that genuinely need you.

Set the reminder without the commentary that usually comes with it. Write things down at the moment they are said. When something keeps slipping, add a system rather than another resolution.