The outing is more considerate when its pace includes the person who needs the most time.

STILLNESS

WHAT THIS MEANS

Groups tend to set their speed by whoever is quickest, which quietly turns everyone else into a straggler. The person with the sore hip, the small child, the one who needs to stop and eat ends up either apologizing or dropping out, and nobody planned that. It happened one brisk decision at a time. A pace is a choice about who is welcome.

Plan the next outing around the slowest member rather than adjusting once you are out. Build in the stop, the shorter route, the extra half hour. Then let the accommodation go unmentioned.

A QUESTION TO SIT WITH

Whose pace do you plan around when you make plans?

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