Let disappointment settle before making a decision designed only to escape its feeling.

Disappointment creates pressure to act, and any action relieves it briefly, which is why the days right after bad news produce so many resignations, purchases and messages that get regretted. The relief is real and it is the only thing that decision achieves. Underneath, the choice is not about the future at all; it is about making the present sensation stop.

When something falls through, do the small ordinary things and hold off on anything irreversible for a few days. Write down what you want to do and date it. If it still makes sense next week, it was probably a real decision.