You can care about looking kind and still need to practice being considerate.

Wanting to be seen as kind is ordinary and not a fault. But the two can come apart: reputation is built out of visible moments, while consideration is mostly small, private and inconvenient, like remembering what someone said last time or doing the part nobody will notice. Nobody is watching for those, which is exactly why they build a real habit. The image and the practice have to be maintained separately.

This week, do one considerate thing that cannot be seen or credited. Notice whether it feels less rewarding, and do it anyway. That gap is where the actual skill gets built.