Every yes quietly creates several noes you may never notice.

RESILIENCE

WHAT THIS MEANS

Each agreement quietly declines the things that would have occupied the same hours, and those refusals never get made explicitly. That is how calendars fill with things nobody chose and how the important gets crowded out by the merely agreed to.

Before accepting something, ask what it displaces. Name the specific thing you will not do because of it. If you would not decline that on purpose, decline this instead.

A QUESTION TO SIT WITH

What did your most recent yes make impossible?

MORE IN CHOICE & CONSEQUENCE

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