Sometimes choosing less is the only way to choose something fully.

Attention does not divide cleanly. Spread across many commitments, it gives each one a version of you that is present but not really there, and the result is a life that is full and somehow thin. Choosing less is not a reduction in living. It is the condition for anything getting the whole of you.

Look at what currently has a claim on you and find the one you are keeping out of guilt or habit rather than desire. Ending it will feel like loss for a week. What tends to follow is that something you actually care about finally gets enough room to become good.