The person you are meeting deserves your attention before your judgment begins arranging them.

Sorting happens fast. Within a minute you have assigned a type, and everything afterward gets read as confirmation, which is efficient and frequently wrong. The person in front of you then has to work against a verdict they never heard being made. Attention held open a little longer lets somebody be specific instead of a category.

In the first minutes of meeting someone, set yourself one question you genuinely do not know the answer to. Hold off the summary until you have heard something that could surprise you.