A personal success can teach something without becoming a recipe for every life.

One life is a small sample. What worked for you happened inside a particular time, place, body, family and run of luck, and the parts that were circumstance are the hardest to see from the inside. Turning it into a general method quietly tells everybody whose situation differs that they simply did not try hard enough. There is usually something real in the story, and it is smaller than a recipe.

When you share what worked, offer the principle and the conditions rather than the steps. Ask what is different about their situation before suggesting they copy yours.