The person who respects you can learn a limit you have only just learned to name.

A limit you only recently found words for can feel illegitimate, as though you needed to have held it all along for it to count. People change, and understanding of what you can carry arrives late more often than early. Someone who respects you will take a new limit as information, not as an accusation about the years before it.

Say one of these out loud this week, briefly and without a defence attached. Notice who adjusts easily. That response tells you something worth knowing about them as well.