A discussion improves when examples are shared before people argue over general words.

Arguments about words are often arguments about different pictures. Two people can use fair, urgent or professional with confidence and mean incompatible things, and the disagreement stays abstract because neither has said what they are seeing. Examples end that quickly. Once a specific case is on the table, you find out whether the gap is real or whether you agreed all along.

When a conversation starts circling a word, ask for an instance: a time it happened, a version that would count. Offer one of your own first so it does not sound like a challenge.