Let another person correct your understanding without treating it as a rejection of your care.

When someone tells you that you have misread their situation, the reflex is to hear it as ingratitude, since the misreading came from paying attention in the first place. That reflex ends the correction. People then stop adjusting you and start managing you, which leaves your care aimed slightly to one side of what they need.

Next time a person revises what you thought about them, say thank you and mean it. Ask one question to get the new version right. Let the care survive the correction, which is what makes it useful.