Siblings can love each other while needing distance from the roles they shared.

Childhood assigns parts, and the parts persist long after they fit anybody. The sensible one, the difficult one, the one who is always late, and a visit home can put all of it back on within an afternoon. Wanting distance from that is not the same as wanting distance from the person. It is often the only way of meeting them as they are now rather than as the old cast list requires.

If seeing your family reinstates an old role, arrange time with one sibling somewhere unconnected to it. New ground makes it easier for both of you to be current.