The person brought into a conversation should not have to guess why everyone stopped talking.

GRATITUDE

WHAT THIS MEANS

Silence at the moment of arrival is louder than whatever was being said. Someone walking in on a hush will fill it themselves, usually with the worst available explanation, and no reassurance offered later quite removes that first impression. The group knows it was harmless; the newcomer has only the pause to go on. A gap in information gets filled by whoever has the least of it.

If a conversation stops when someone comes in, tell them plainly what it was about; even a partial answer is kinder than an obvious change of subject.

A QUESTION TO SIT WITH

Who has walked into your conversation and felt suddenly outside it?

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