The trip remembered for its scenery still depended on somebody watching the road.

The parts of an experience that get remembered are rarely the parts that made it possible. Everyone recalls the light on the hills; nobody recalls four hours of steady attention keeping the car between the lines. That kind of attention is unglamorous, invisible when it succeeds, and the whole reason there was a view to enjoy.

Think back to something you enjoyed recently and find the person who was concentrating while you were not. Tell them what you remember and that you know what it cost. If you were the one driving, it is fair to say so.