The person receiving special treatment may be the last to notice how special it is.

Advantage tends to feel like normality from the inside. When the extra patience, the returned call, the benefit of the doubt or the quiet exception has always been there, it registers as simply how things are, and the person has no comparison available. That is rarely arrogance, it is the absence of contrast. What you have never been without is very hard to see.

Ask somebody whose circumstances differ from yours how the same process went for them, then listen without correcting. Compare specifics: waiting times, tone, what was assumed. Noticing your own smooth path is the first step towards making it less exclusive.