Words reveal priorities through what gets mentioned and what keeps getting omitted.

What someone chooses to mention repeatedly and what never comes up together form a fairly accurate map of their priorities, often a more accurate one than any stated account. This applies to you as well, and your own map may not match your description of yourself.

Listen to your own conversation for a week. What do you talk about unprompted, and what never gets airtime. If the things you claim matter most rarely appear, that is worth sitting with. It does not necessarily mean you are wrong about your values, but it does show where your attention actually lives.