Language can solve problems or give existing problems better vocabulary.

Naming a feeling or a situation precisely can help enormously, and it can also become a substitute for changing anything. A vocabulary of terms for what is happening feels like progress and can quietly become a sophisticated way of describing a problem you keep having.

Ask whether your understanding of a situation has produced any change in it. If you can describe it in detail and nothing has moved for a year, the language is doing the work that action should. Choose one concrete thing to actually alter, and let the description follow rather than lead.