The small inconvenience you accept can spare someone a complicated explanation.

Some needs are awkward to explain, and explaining them can cost more than the need itself. Taking the stairs so the lift is free, moving down the bench, picking the restaurant with a ramp without announcing why: each is a minor cost to you and a spared conversation for someone else. The point is not sacrifice but discretion, arranging things so nobody has to make a case for themselves.

Look for one place this week where a small adjustment on your part removes a request from somebody else’s list. Make it quietly, and resist the urge to be seen making it.