An hour together can feel brief because neither person kept checking how it was going.

Time stretches when you keep stepping outside it to assess it. An hour that disappears is usually one where nobody was auditing the conversation, wondering whether it was good enough or when it should end. The checking is not neutral. It splits your attention, and half of you watches from the door.

Notice, in your next long conversation, the moment you start evaluating it. You can usually let that go and return to the person in front of you. Ease is often less about finding the right company than about stopping the running assessment of it.