A job can fit your skills while asking too much of the rest of your life.

Being good at the work is only one of the questions, and it is the one most easily answered. A role can use exactly what you are best at and still take the evenings, the sleep, the patience you wanted for other people. Competence is not the same as sustainability.

If something feels wrong while every review says otherwise, look outside working hours for the evidence. Ask what has quietly gone missing since you started. Naming the cost is the first thing that makes it negotiable, whether that means changing the role or changing what it is allowed to reach.