He that can have patience can have what he will.

Most of what you want is available to someone willing to wait longer than the people competing for it. Skill, money, trust, a good relationship: none of them refuse you, they simply refuse to arrive quickly. What usually removes them from reach is not lack of ability but the decision, made somewhere around month four, that it is taking too long. Waiting well is itself the rare capability.

Take one thing you want and put a realistic horizon on it, in years rather than weeks. Then ask what the smallest sustainable weekly effort toward it would be, and choose a size you could still be doing next winter.